“Oh my god!” I hear emanating from the bathroom.  I am in the kitchen cooking dinner having been laid off a month prior from my miserable advertising job.  “Ari come here and look at this” she yells.  I turn down the ragu and walk over.  She is holding the pregnancy test she had purchased – holding it out for me to read.  PREGNANT it reads. 
 
Now you have to understand, while we had stopped using birth control maybe a year before, we weren’t exactly trying to get pregnant.  In fact, we would avoid having sex when she …

One of the first things I did after hearing that we were pregnancy was to run to the book store and then go online to find books for expecting fathers. 
 
What I found was a constellation of books written for men that I did not know – reluctant fathers and misogynistic ignorant men.  Men with IQs below 80 for sure and men who were incredibly insecure and out of touch with their own internal states. 
 
I was deeply resentful to discover that men had only this gross caricature of themselves depicted in the …